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My Unforgettable Experience at India’s T20 World Cup Open Bus Parade

Being part of India’s T20 World Cup open bus parade will remain an unforgettable, tiring, and once-in-a-lifetime experience. I joined the enthusiastic crowd, got super lucky to form a hand chain, and walked alongside the bus, close enough to touch it. That was a surreal experience amidst chaos and chants everywhere.

Throughout the parade, I kept thanking each player I got a glimpse of, and many acknowledged me as they could literally hear me due to my closeness to the bus. I kept calling for Virat, and SKY on the bus replied, saying he was on the other side. Although I didn’t get to catch Virat’s eye right then, it was thrilling to be acknowledged. Rohit Sharma also acknowledged my thank-you gestures with a thank you.

As the parade continued, Bumrah, Arshdeep, Kuldeep, Jaiswal, Pant, Siraj, Jadeja, Axar, and Pandya waved towards the side I was on, adding to the excitement. I kept staring at all of them while holding hand chains with crowds pushing from one side and police from the other.

I got a constant glimpse of Dravid the coach, and I thanked him a lot. Also, Jay Shah acknowledged me when I kept screaming for Virat, replying with a smile, “aayega,” which was quite funny.

When Virat finally appeared on the side I was on, his presence was electrifying, even though I couldn’t catch his eye. I kept staring and screaming his name, and he was just two hand lengths away from me. Maybe next time, a one-on-one chat with Virat will happen with no cameras around. He’s the reason I’m smiling amidst my life challenges.

The climax was when Rohit and Virat lifted the trophy right above my head—a truly “wow” moment.

The wait was long, about three hours before the parade started, plus another hour during the parade, leaving me and every fan exhausted and fatigued. But the continuous one-hour glimpse of the team made it all worthwhile. By the end, I was worn out but elated, having been part of such a monumental celebration.

Fans, please do take care and rest as it was one hell of an experience for all of us too. Take care.

At the end, it goes without saying that the police had the most tiring job, managing such an unmanageable crowd; they even got their lathis out a few times. With my closeness to them, I made sure to thank them and make them smile as much as I could. Kudos and heartfelt thanks to the police and all volunteers. Take care.

#INDvENG #T20WorldCup #Champions #ViratKohli #RohitSharma #JaspritBumrah #ArshdeepSingh #YashasviJaiswal #HardikPandya #SKY #CricketCelebration #BleedBlue #ProudMoment #TeamIndia #CricketFans #OpenBusParade #CricketLife

Tax Credit System for Government Software Projects

As a software company, we often face lower expenses compared to other industries, which results in higher tax liabilities. Paying significant taxes can be challenging, especially after working hard to navigate through competition, economic challenges, and recessions. However, this proposal is not about tax reduction but about leveraging our expertise for the benefit of the nation.

Proposal Outline:

1. Government Software Requirements Portal:

  • Establish a centralized government portal where various government departments can post their software and modernization requirements. This could include the development of new software, upgrading existing systems, or building new websites across any sector.

2. Submission of Proposals:

  • Software companies can submit proposals in response to the posted requirements. These proposals would detail the project scope, timeline, and cost.

3. Project Credits:

  • Upon successful completion of a government project, the software company would earn a credit equivalent to the project cost. These credits could then be used to offset future tax liabilities.

4. Tax Credit Utilization:

  • Instead of paying a portion of our taxes in cash, companies would use the earned credits. This system ensures that our expertise is directly contributing to the development of national infrastructure while providing financial relief through tax credits.

Benefits:

  • Win-Win Situation:
    • The government receives high-quality software and IT services without immediate budgetary constraints.
    • Software companies gain valuable projects and can offset their tax liabilities.
  • Nation Development:
    • This initiative helps Indian firms contribute directly to national development, fostering a stronger, more tech-savvy government infrastructure.
  • Economic Stimulus:
    • Encourages continuous investment in technological advancements and modernization of public services.

We believe this tax credit system could be a significant step towards aligning the interests of private enterprises with national development goals, creating a synergistic relationship that benefits both the government and the software industry.

Paryushan … Be Soulful, Be Sensitive, Be forgiving … Be Human!

Ack: Atit Shah! (Received this forward, This is not a comprehensive draft but throws many apt points. Read and follow the ones you think are rational.)

Paryushan… A festival of 8 days which is one of the greatest festivals in Jainism!

Unfortunately, this festival has been reduced to food by today’s generation … What to eat ..What not to eat .. what should be eaten and how many fasts can be done!!

However, food is only a part and a path to achieve the actual focus of Paryushan!

So what is the focus of Paryushan? Why is Paryushan called the greatest of festivals and why is it so important?

The answer is in a two-pronged approach and like 2 sides of a coin both are equally important and cannot exist independently without the other

The first is

1. Disconnect to connect.
We observe in todays generation that they are constantly on their smartphones and disconnected from the real world .. conversations have been reduced to emojis, lol and # … Relationships have become virtual, temporary and based on wants rather than meaningful long lasting ones

But perhaps the most important relationship, The one with your soul has been completely forgotten so much so that we aren’t even aware that we are the soul and not the body. For us our outward appearance and comforts have become the daily driving factor of our lives … What did you eat today? Which movie did you see? Have you seen that new dress? In all this drama The soul is simply lost and forgotten or relegated to 5 mins of superficial prayer at a temple because everyone in the house seems to be doing it.

Paryushan is a festival which tells you to truly disconnect from all outwardly distractions to connect to your self to connect to who you really are. Do we know who we are or are we now defined by Our Rolexs Guccis and Armanis?

Notice there are 2 words .. DISCONNECT and Connect .. you absolutely need to disconnect from your current form of thinking and distractions to truly connect to your soul. It needs a radical shift in thought.

And so all the types of tapas (there are 12 to be exact) and vyakhans are designed to do just that … Help you on the path of disconnecting and dive deep within to an unexplained unexplored world so amazing that it has has the power to not only shake your current misguided foundation which is a just an illusion but to cement another foundation so strong that you will be unshakable by anyone all at the same time.

Infact the very word Upvas does not mean to go hungry but real or literal meaning is to abstain from ALL DISTRACTIONS which hinder you from going within. A form of self control if you will.

It is ABSOLUTELY NOT OK to fast and watch television or just sleep and laze around because then it completely negates the purpose of the fast. A Fast if done correctly may not be the cause but it definitely is the catalyst and the first step to going within.

So again I will iterate here that Upvas/other forms of Tapa is a catalayst to help you disconnect from the outside world and go within which is the real focus of Paryushan is to initiate a process which will ultimately let you know yourself and then be at peace with yourself.

The second and more important focus of Paryushan is summed up by this statement

2. We are so desperate to be understood that we forget to be understanding.

This statement works on the Givers gain philosophy and if you are truly understanding and sensitive to each and everyone around you; you will be understood. You must give what you want to recieve! Sounds easy right? Well it’s definitely easier said than done… However the beauty of Jainism is that it takes this philosophy multiple steps ahead and asks you to be understanding and sensitive to each every living being or every soul you encounter and not just humans.

To make it easy I recommend starting at the core … Your family and colleagues you interact with everyday and then slowly widening that circle. Try and be understanding to a handful of people for 8 days atleast .. be patient with them, try not to get angry and then slowly widen the time frame and your net when ultimately your at peace with the whole world all the time! A Jain tirthankar is at peace with every single soul every single second.

Again this philosophy is not only to be practiced for these 8 days but rather every moment of your conscious state ..However for all of us who don’t implement it all the time or have frequent lapses Paryushan is the time to kickstart it with new renewed fervour.

So what about forgiveness then? Where does that feature in all of this as it is preached by all our sadhus? What is Pratikraman and why is it so important (much more important than fasting alone)

When self realisation dawns you will know that your not the perfect being and there are many actions by us which causes hurt and harm to other souls. So the next logical step after being understanding is to set things right for all the wrong we have done.

As it is said a good apology has 3 parts to it …

I accept what I have done wrong
I am sorry for what i have done
How can I set things right.

Once we accept that we are wrong and take suitable corrective action only then can we be at peace with the other soul.

A Pratikraman if understood is the most amazing tool given to us by the tirthankars and is designed in such a way so as so make you remember all the wrong things you have done and ask for forgiveness. It can be summed up in 2 words Micchami Dukkadam!

However it is in no way to be understood that it’s ok to continue doing wrong and then doing a Pratikraman or simply saying Micchami Dukkadam to amend those things because the Pratikraman covers only the first 2 parts of the apology. You still have to goto the concerened person and make things right and more importantly try not to repeat the same mistake.
It would be completely moot to say Micchami Dukkadam to a friend when you haven’t been talking to your cousin for the last 10 months.

Lastly think of Paryushan just like a marathon, which is held annually but you train for it every single day and with each marathon you try and up your game… 8 Kms 21kms and 42kms.
Similarly create personal specific goals for each Paryushan, (i will not hurt X amount of people, I will try to disconnect atleast for 20
Minutes a day, I will understand and learn more about Jainism, I will do atleast 1 type of fast atleast once a month) practice some of it every day and progress further every single year. Make these the 8 days of reckoning till you are the best human you have ever encountered in your own eyes because your conscience never lies to you, even if you may!

Jai Jinendra!

P.S : So a few of you might ask why no vegetables for these 8’days … Well the simple answer to that is that it’s scientifically proven that certain foods creates certain reactions in the body and mind which are suitable for different tasks. Ideally one should fast so it detoxes the body but spiritually and more importantly it detoxes your mind of all negative emotions. A must to lead a healthy lifestyle. This is also been proven by science and is recommended once a month. If you can’t completely abstain from food then the diet given in Paryushan is the most optimal for the same detoxification process which helps you in your dive into the infinte wisdom stored within.

I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart …

Today I came across a really nice story, which touched my heart. This probably is story of every next door in these modern days of relationship where relations are not being respected or cared for.

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

Is Aamir a Marketing Genius …

Aamir can give lessons in film marketing at top B-schools globally.

Some cases in point:

  • Ghulam (Aamir promoted the train stunt),
  • Ghajini (got down to giving kids the buzz cut in Delhi),
  • Fanaa (landed up to support Narmada Bachao Andolan),
  • Taare… (activities with Darsheel Safary),
  • Lagaan (Oscar buzz), and
  • 3 Idiots (vanished only to emerge in disguise on an all-India road tour).

He sticks to the brands which he endorses
He is a perfectionist ..
He delivers what he promises
He has an intellectual image

At end, he is classy ……

Johnny-Johnny reloaded

Johny Johny
Yes Papa
Pvt Company
Yes Papa
Any Motivation
No Papa
Many Tension
Yes Papa
Do u Sleep well
No Papa
Onsite Opportunity
No papa
Boss Ki Galiyan
Yes Papa

Increment
Ha ha ha 🙂

The History Of Valentine Day

Valentine’s Day started in the time of the Roman Empire. In ancient Rome, February 14th was a holiday to honour Juno. Juno was the Queen of the Roman Gods and Goddesses. The Romans also knew her as the Goddess of women and marriage. The following day, February 15th, began the Feast of Lupercalia.

The lives of young boys and girls were strictly separate. However, one of the customs of the young people was name drawing. On the eve of the festival of Lupercalia the names of Roman girls were written on slips of paper and placed into jars. Each young man would draw a girl’s name from the jar and would then be partners for the duration of the festival with the girl whom he chose. Sometimes the pairing of the children lasted an entire year, and often, they would fall in love and would later marry.

Under the rule of Emperor Claudius II Rome was involved in many bloody and unpopular campaigns. Claudius the Cruel was having a difficult time getting soldiers to join his military leagues. He believed that the reason was that roman men did not want to leave their loves or families. As a result, Claudius cancelled all marriages and engagements in Rome.

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The good Saint Valentine was a priest at Rome in the days of Claudius II. He and Saint Marius aided the Christian martyrs and secretly married couples, and for this kind deed Saint Valentine was apprehended and dragged before the Prefect of Rome, who condemned him to be beaten to death with clubs and to have his head cut off. He suffered martyrdom on the 14th day of February, about the year 270. At that time it was the custom in Rome, a very ancient custom, indeed, to celebrate in the month of February the Lupercalia, feasts in honour of a heathen god. On these occasions, amidst a variety of pagan ceremonies, the names of young women were placed in a box, from which they were drawn by the men as chance directed.

The pastors of the early Christian Church in Rome endeavoured to do away with the pagan element in these feasts by substituting the names of saints for those of maidens. And as the Lupercalia began about the middle of February, the pastors appear to have chosen Saint Valentine’s Day for the celebration of this new feaSt. So it seems that the custom of young men choosing maidens for valentines, or saints as patrons for the coming year, arose in this way.

Google Chrome now has extensions and bookmark sync

chrome_logo_may09.jpgGoogle just released a new stable version of Chrome for Windows PCs that includes two of the most frequently requested features: extensions and bookmark sync.

This change won’t affect those users who are already using these features through Chrome’s beta or developer preview channel. Windows users who are using the stable version of Chrome, however, will finally be able to use extensions and sync bookmarks between multiple machines.

Interesting facts about “Bombay STATE”

During British rule, portions of the western coast of India under direct British rule were part of the Bombay Presidency. In 1937, the Bombay Presidency became a province of British India.

After Indian independence in 1947, many former princely states, including the Gujarat states and the Deccan states, were merged with the former Bombay province, which was renamed the State of Bombay.

The State of Bombay was significantly enlarged on November 1, 1956, expanding eastward to incorporate the Marathi-speaking Marathwada region of Hyderabad State, the Marathi-speaking Vidarbha region of southern Madhya Pradesh, and Gujarati-speaking Saurashtra and Kutch. The southernmost, Kannada-speaking portion of the state became part of the new linguistic state of Karnataka. The state was being referred to by the local inhabitants as Maha Dwibhashi Rajya, literally, the great bilingual state.

The state was home to both Marathi and Gujarati linguistic movements, both seeking to create separate linguistic states. The Mahagujarat movement in Gujarat was led by Shri Indubhai Yagnik. On May 1, 1960, after a movement for a separate Marathi state turned violent, the State of Bombay was partitioned into the States of Gujarat and Maharashtra.

Don’t be serious, be sincere

Don’t just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.

There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup.
There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts.
Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.

“Life is one of those races in nursery school where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same is with life where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die. ………… …….

One thing about nurturing the spark – don’t take life seriously. Life is not meant to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? ………… ….
It’s ok, bunk a few classes, scoring low in couple of papers, goof up a few interviews, take leave from work, fall in love, little fights with your spouse.

We are people, not programmed devices….. ….” 🙂

– Chetan Bhagat

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